Life Hacks

Do you know someone who sets their clocks ahead by 5 or 10 minutes in the hopes that it’ll prevent them from being late? Maybe you do this?

Well, according to Psychology Today, it’s called “time hacking” – and what people are doing is trying to manipulate themselves.

But the truth is, people who deliberately set their clocks and watches ahead are eight times more likely to be late for an appointment than those who set their clocks accurately. Because their subconscious mind knows their own trickery and they don’t fall for it!

So what can you do? Psychologist Linda Sapadin specializes in time management. And she says, if you’re committed to trying to fool yourself, you have to constantly change the amount of time you’re setting your clock ahead.

Otherwise, you’ll just start deducting those extra minutes. So her advice is that you change it up every week. So set your clocks 13 minutes fast, then 17, then 23 minutes. That’s the only way it’ll work.

Also using odd numbers makes re-calculating the time harder in your head, so you’re less likely to give yourself that extra grace period. And you have to do that for every clock in your house.

Or, just commit to being on time without all the personal manipulation!

If you want to figure out how you feel about someone, try the ‘Two Beers and a Puppy’ test.

It comes from the book “Works Well With Others,” by Ross McCammon. Here’s how it works……

Pick a person in your life – a friend, coworker, cousin – and ask yourself two questions: 

Would I drink two beers with this person?

And……would you allow this person to look after your puppy for a weekend?

Some people are no and no. These people are to be avoided at all costs. 

Some people are yes and no. Yes to having a couple beers – no to the puppy. These people are to be cautiously trusted. 

Some people are no and yes. No to the beers – yes to the puppy. These people aren’t much fun but they make the world a better place – especially for puppies! 

And some people are yes and yes. These are wonderful people and your life is better for knowing them. Seek them out. Collaborate with them. Enjoy their company.

And, strive to be that person yourself.

And that’s the ‘Two Beers and a Puppy’ test.

Neurologist Dr. Richard Restak wrote “The Complete Guide to Memory.” And he says reading fiction demands extended attention to remember what happened at different stages in the story. After all, finding out whodunnit on page 200 won’t be as fun if you can’t remember the clue you read about back on page 20. So, we use deeper thinking skills, and concentrate harder, with fiction.

And Dr. Restak says that’s why people having memory problems start to prefer nonfiction! Because you can jump around a bit, and still get something from it – without having to focus, like when you read fiction.

Reading is also a workout for the brain. For example, if a character in your book is playing tennis, areas of your brain that would light up if you were physically playing tennis yourself are activated. And that can literally be seen in your brain waves when you read.

Fiction also rewires your brain in general. It strengthens your ability to imagine, remember details, and think through complex problems. 

Bottom line: Reading exercises your brain and makes you functionally smarter!

According to the journal Frontiers In Psychiatry, superhero movies can help us conquer our fears, improve our confidence and reduce anxiety! The experts say superhero movies are being used as a kind of “cinema therapy” to treat a range of psychological disorders. 

That’s because we see ourselves in Superhero Stories. Most people believe in fighting for justice. And superheroes often come from tragic beginnings, which inspires us to cope with our own hardships, find meaning in loss, and discover our strengths and use them for good. Superhero movies also tap into our capacity for empathy. 

And watching the Avengers reminds us that teamwork is vital to success. And by the way, superhero movies featuring women, like Wonder Woman, make young girls feel more confident. 

My favorite superhero has always been Superman, but Captain America is a close second.

According to Daniel Pink, co-author of “Magic Words: What To Say To Get Your Way,” Instead of asking your kids to HELP you with chores, ask them to be your HELPERS.

Or at work, don’t ask a colleague to MANAGE a project……Ask them to be your project MANAGER! And with your own goals, start thinking of yourself as a RUNNER, a LIFTER, and a healthy EATER!

Notice a pattern? In most cases, Pink says you’re simply adding an “-er” to the end of action verbs. But that’s effective…… because where verbs tend to demand a change in one’s behavior – think “help,” “run” and “work,” nouns appeal to someone’s values and personal identity! As in, you’re a “helper” and a “hard worker!”

In fact, a study found that kids were a whopping 33% more likely to help with chores when adults asked them to be “a helper,” compared to asking them “Can you help me clean?”

It works the opposite way, too. When researchers gave people a test and told them, “Don’t be a cheater” – instead of “don’t cheat” – it cut unethical behavior in half! Because people don’t want to see themselves negatively.

Bottom line: To be more persuasive, try appealing to people’s identity in your requests.

What do you think? Ready to try this? Let me know your thoughts at John@Tesh.com

Those are the most prominent of the 17 facial muscles we use to form a SMILE! They’re the ones at the corners of the mouth, which help pull our lips up into a semi-circle.

And surprisingly, there’s been growing demand lately for so-called “smile coaches” who can help strengthen and train those muscles!

Why? According to smile coach Keiko Kawano, many people’s facial expressions got “rusty” during the pandemic. And since smiles do everything from boost our mood, to our attractiveness, to even our career opportunities, it makes sense that some people may need extra help flexing the best smile possible.

Kawano’s advice? Try puffing out your cheeks, like a puffer fish…… and then slowly exhale between your lips with your mouth closed – so you make a “brrrrrr” sound for as long as possible.

Researchers say that’s something most babies do, and it offers a great way to work your Zygomatic Smile muscles. No Smile Coach required.