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Happy Spouse = Happier YOU!

You’ve heard the expression “Happy wife, happy life”…… Well, it’s true, AND it’s true for husbands, too! Research from UC Davis found that when your spouse is in a good mood, you’ll probably feel happier too. And it goes deeper than that. When your partner experiences positive emotions, your body produces less cortisol, the primary stress hormone, regardless of how you’re feeling yourself.

And the benefits are greater in happy, long-term relationships. People in long-term, satisfying relationships showed the strongest link between their partner’s happiness and reduced stress. And that emotional reciprocity plays a critical role in healthy aging.

So what about negative emotions? Thankfully, unlike positive emotions, a partner’s negative emotions were not found to significantly affect stress levels. The researchers think that’s because long-term couples develop strategies to protect each other from stress. And if both partners are in a good mood? That’s the best-case scenario.

The researchers say creating opportunities for shared good times provides a mutual health boost.

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June 9, 2025

Health  ·  Life Hacks  ·  Love
Hugs Are The Health Boost You Need!

The immunity science behind hugging:

Our family has developed this habit of never arriving or departing each other without a hug. It may seem obvious to you, but I know plenty of people who don’t do this.

We’ve never talked about it…it just happens. It feels natural. And if one of my grandkids gets all the way out the door and into my son’s car, she will run back if she forgot to give everyone a hug. And I mean everyone. Even Leroy, the dog. Well now I find that we’re on to something….at least when it comes to our health.

For many reasons there’s been an increased focus on boosting our immune system lately. But today researchers are reporting that we don’t need supplements – or a special diet……what we need to strengthen our immune system is a daily hug.

According to the journal Psychological Science, every time we hug a loved one, we give our immune system a powerful boost. In a recent study, people were purposely exposed to a cold virus……but those who got the most hugs were significantly less likely to get sick.

That’s because, when we’re stressed out, our immune function is suppressed and we’re more vulnerable to infection. But a hug – and the emotional support we feel through that physical contact – dials down our stress, bolstering our immune system, and our ability to fight off infections.

Alright….let me hear it…when was the last time you hugged someone?…and who was it? John@Tesh.com

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April 28, 2025

Life Hacks  ·  Love
The 12-Minute Mood Booster

We all have those days when our spirits need a little lift, and today, I’ve got a scientifically backed method to help.

I want you to grab a pen and paper and write a short letter to a friend or loved one. But not just any letter – make it a letter of appreciation. Tell them why you’re grateful for them or what they mean to you.

Here’s the fantastic part: According to behavioral science professor Nicholas Epley from the University of Chicago, this simple gesture will lift your spirits in just 12 minutes. And the effects aren’t just temporary – you’ll keep feeling good for up to a week!

The Science Behind the Smile

You might wonder, “John, how can writing a letter make such a big difference?” Well, it’s all about brain chemistry. When we share positive thoughts, it increases the production of our brain’s mood-boosting chemicals.

It’s like giving your brain a natural, happiness-inducing supplement!

But it’s more than just chemicals. When we express gratitude, we are reminded of the good in our lives. We shift our focus from what’s going wrong to what’s going right, and in doing so, we often realize that we’re more blessed than we thought.

Do this today:

1. Set aside 12 minutes (Netflix can wait).

2. Choose someone you appreciate – a friend, family member, mentor, or coworker.

3. Write them a heartfelt letter expressing your gratitude. Be specific about what you appreciate about them.

4. You don’t have to send the letter (although you certainly can if you want to spread the joy). The act of writing itself is what boosts your mood.

5. Notice how you feel immediately after writing, and pay attention to your mood over the next week.

A Moment of Reflection

It’s easy to get caught up in our to-do lists and worry about what’s ahead. But taking just a few minutes to appreciate the people in our lives can shift our perspective.

Remember, gratitude isn’t just a gift we give to others—it’s a gift we give ourselves. Recognizing and expressing the good in our lives opens us to more positivity and joy.

Join me for my Transformation Tuesday weekly calls CLICK THE LINK https://tesh.com/tuesday to unlock the secrets to a longer life, better sleep, and sharper memory! These calls are designed to be a quick boost of powerful information each week to help you make powerful changes to enhance your life! Join me each week and transform your health and your life! Let’s do this together!
January 6, 2025

Your Relationship Depends on Your Bedtime
Life Hacks  ·  Love
Your Relationship Depends on Your Bedtime

Why should you and your partner go to bed at the same time…

To improve your relationship, you and your partner should go to bed at the same time. Even if you’re not speaking or touching, climbing in bed together has a halo effect. It makes you feel like you’re in sync…

The folks at the University of Pittsburgh researched couples. And those who had the same sleep schedules felt more satisfied with their relationships. And that means, going to bed within 5 minutes of each other. It makes couples feel like they have some common ground – and it’s typically a relaxed time to talk about things besides stressors – like work, kids and money. 

If you and your partner have different schedules, try this……Go to bed together, and after the early-to-bed partner falls asleep, get up and continue with your night. You can also try napping together on weekends. It’ll help increase your relationship satisfaction. 

July 5, 2024

How to Apologize to Your Partner - The Rules
Life Hacks  ·  Love
How to Apologize to Your Partner – The Rules

The danger of using a text message for apologies 

If you’ve had a fight with your significant other, don’t send a text message to say “I’m sorry.” Save your apology for an in-person conversation. Do that, and your relationship will improve. That’s according to a study in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. 

They found that couples that use text messaging for relationship maintenance – or serious discussions – had significantly lower levels of relationship satisfaction than those who discussed issues face-to-face. 

The reason is because you can’t see each other’s facial expressions, body language – or hear tone of voice. That leads to more misunderstandings and less intimacy. So save the arguments and apologies for in-person talks. 

However, feel free to text some sweet nothings. Loving messages – even when sent in a text message – universally enhance the bond between partners.

June 10, 2024

Why this One Move Guarantees Long Relationships
Life Hacks  ·  Love
Why this One Move Guarantees Long Relationships

Long relationships are 100% guaranteed with this one move

What’s the key to a loving, long-lasting, relationship? Having joint bank accounts! That’s according to a new study from Cornell University. 

Psychologists say it’s all down to something called “interdependence theory.” Meaning, our lives are intertwined with the lives of the people we’re closest to – making us mutually dependent on each other……To the point that their decisions and actions have a direct impact on OUR decisions and actions, and vice versa. 

And there’s no stronger way of becoming intertwined with your significant other than by merging your finances. 

The research was done by marketing professor Emily Garbinsky…… And she found couples in serious relationships who combined their finances felt more harmonious, more committed, more satisfied with their relationship, and had more common goals. 

June 5, 2024

Love
How To Answer Tricky First Date Questions!

Hey guys, ever wonder why some first dates go horribly wrong before dinner even starts?

Experts say it’s because women ask some tricky questions so they can learn more about you. But what they learn may completely turn them off! So, don’t blow it. Here are some critical first-date questions, and how to answer them:

  • “What are we doing tonight?” Experts say this question gives women the first hint of your interest level. Because if you answer, “I dunno, what do you want to do?” – you may think you’re accommodating her by letting her decide. But what she hears is that you don’t care enough to make a plan! So, make a plan. In fact, make TWO! Experts say give your date a choice between two options, including something traditional, like dinner – and something more adventurous, like a wall-climbing lesson!
  • “What do you do for work?” This may sound like an attempt to assess your income level, but experts say it’s really how women assess your values! That’s because your job says something about your ambition, drive, and intelligence. And women use those traits to guess your potential for commitment. In other words, they’ll be more impressed to hear you say you have a job you love – no matter how much or little you earn – than to hear that you’re always jumping from job-to-job, chasing bigger paychecks.
  • “What’s your type?” Experts say that when a woman asks this, she’s trying to gauge your compatibility. Because if you tell her that she’s your perfect type, she’s going to think she’s just like every other woman you’ve dated – and not very special. And if you reel off a list of “likes” and “dislikes,” you’re going to come across as too picky! That’s why experts say it’s better to focus on key interests you want to share with a partner, while leaving some room for flexibility. So you might say, “I’m looking for someone who likes being active, because it’s a big part of my life. And it would be cool if she could introduce me to some new sports I haven’t tried.”
  • “Wanna split the bill?” According to a new survey, most women will offer to pay on a first date, but half say they’d be “annoyed” if you accepted their offer. Experts say it’s because paying the bill shows that you’re willing to invest in the relationship! So, even if your date argues, say something like this: “No, I’ll get this one, and you can get the next.” That way, she’s thinking less about the bill, and more about the second date.
February 15, 2022